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  • A woman sits in a window looking out, seemingly deep in thought. The tone is quiet and a bit somber, we wonder if this girl is in her healing process and if she is experiencing pain and repressed emotions.
    Boundaries & Self-Respect - Confidence & Self-Worth - Emotional Awareness - Healing & Inner Work - Perspective and Growth

    Why Healing Sometimes Hurts More Than Survival Mode

    May 31, 2025 - By Susie

    When we imagine healing, many of us picture something soft. We might expect lightness, peace, or a specific kind of clarity. Eventually, yes, those things do come. However, in the beginning – and often right in the thick of it – healing can feel like a flood of emotions. It can feel overwhelming and we can sense it in places we didn’t even know we were holding pain. Something that doesn’t get talked about quite as much, is that healing sometimes hurts, too. Sometimes, healing can feel a little confusing. You might find yourself thinking, “Why does this hurt more…

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  • Three women stand in a group and are laughing together, perhaps out for a girls night, or a night on the town. The image of different people feeling different emotions resonates with this posts message about emotional awareness. Being in a group setting like these ladies oftentimes requires emotional awareness to know how you are feeling, and the feelings of others. Gaining emotional awareness can lead to emotional empowerment. Both of these things can help you to heal your people-pleasing tenancies.
    Boundaries & Self-Respect - Confidence & Self-Worth - Emotional Awareness - Perspective and Growth

    Why Emotional Awareness Changes Everything: Healing People-Pleasing and Reclaiming Your Self-Esteem

    May 24, 2025 - By Susie

    For too long, many of us have confused being nice with being good – and being liked with being worthy. We do our best to smile, to be pleasant, and we see that as the baseline for acceptable behavior. As long as the people around us approve of what we’re doing, saying, or even who we are, we assume we’re worthy. We trade our emotional awareness for the perceived approval of others. This way of thinking skips the most important questions:How are you feeling? What do you want? Are you okay? People-pleasing can become so ingrained that we lose sight…

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  • The image shows a man sitting alone at a table looking out over the ocean. The viewer is seeing this man through an open doorway. The image relates to the post with a sense of possibility and optimism. Changing your mindset can help you build your self-esteem, it seems that this man is looking into the future with a positive outlook because he is changing his mindset and feeling better about himself.
    Boundaries & Self-Respect - Confidence & Self-Worth - Emotional Awareness - Healing & Inner Work - Perspective and Growth

    How Mindset Plays a Big Part in Building Self-Esteem

    May 17, 2025 - By Susie

    If there’s one thing that catches my attention almost immediately, it’s when I hear someone talk down to themselves. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, or a colleague, I’ve heard so many people say really harsh things after a simple mistake – things like, “I’m so stupid,” or, “What an idiot.” Every time, my heart sinks a little. I would never say something so cruel to them – and I certainly wouldn’t stand quietly if someone else did. When it comes to building self-esteem, this kind of talk is detrimental to your progress. It makes me wonder: what kind…

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  • We are looking a a city view, through broken fence. This image represents the core ideas in this blog, which are walls, barriers and boundaries. Does this fence represent a wall, barrier or a boundary? And does the hole in the fence mean that the viewer is breaking through those defenses to discover emotional freedom?
    Boundaries & Self-Respect - Emotional Awareness - Healing & Inner Work - Perspective and Growth

    Emotional Defenses After Conflict: Walls, Barriers and Boundaries

    May 13, 2025 - By Susie

    Everyone experiences pain at some point in their life. Whether you’re talking about things like loss, or disappointment, or learning that your best friend really isn’t a friend to you after all – pain from these moments teaches us something. Everyone reacts differently to painful lessons; some folks take it in stride and use that discomfort to create meaningful change in their lives. Others hold on to the pain, and sometimes they take protective measures to ensure they don’t get hurt again. In this post, we’ll discuss the difference between walls, barriers and boundaries. When it comes to protecting ourselves and…

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  • A group of people are standing around and the image is blurry. This blurry image relates to seeing your relationships with people in a new, perhaps uncomfortable way. As a people pleaser, this might be the beginning stages of what it feels like to let go of the need to please.
    Boundaries & Self-Respect - Confidence & Self-Worth - Emotional Awareness - Healing & Inner Work - Perspective and Growth

    Learning to Let People Down: A People-Pleaser’s Guide to Disappointment

    May 3, 2025 - By Susie

    People-pleasers are often described as “nice”. Beyond nice, however, people-pleasers are sensitive, emotionally attuned and often deeply empathetic. The problem occurs when empathy becomes your way of survival; when you unconsciously believe that other people’s comfort is more important than your truth – it gradually depletes your self-worth.  People-pleasing is a survival strategy, and we do it out of fear – fear of disappointing others, fear of abandonment. Fear that if we don’t make other people happy; we aren’t lovable.  The Unseen Burden of Pleasing If you were conditioned to view approval as the same as love, you likely learned…

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  • A man is walking across the street, he is looking over at the camera, smiling. He might be the exact person this post is for, someone who feels the need to people-please, and doesn't realize that he is enough just as he is.
    Boundaries & Self-Respect - Confidence & Self-Worth - Emotional Awareness - Healing & Inner Work - Perspective and Growth

    Being a People-Pleaser and Sacrificing Self-Worth

    April 26, 2025 - By Susie

    We live out certain patterns in our lives, and sometimes we aren’t even aware that it’s happening. These are repeated behaviors we have been acting out for a very long time, and yet we have no conscious awareness of them. Being a people-pleaser is a manifestation of one of those patterns. On the outside, it can look like simply being helpful, offering a friendly smile or giving of your time to those who need it. However, on a deeper level, it can stem from fear, a desire to be enough, and a belief that our worth is dependent on how…

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    Reclaim Your Power: Why We Give It Away and How to Take It Back

    April 22, 2025 - By Susie

    People give their power away in so many areas of their lives, and sometimes they don’t even realize it’s happening. We seek validation from external sources like our partners, bosses, social circles, and even social media. From the car we drive to the vacations we take, especially in the photo proof for our social pages, our sense of self-worth can be tied to the things that we own and how many people approve of us. Now, however, we’re going to take a different approach – it’s time to stop abandoning yourself and reclaim your power. After all of the work…

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  • a woman standing in quite reflection, having just been rejected. She is realizing that she doesn't need to please everyone.
    Boundaries & Self-Respect - Healing & Inner Work - Perspective and Growth

    How to Be Okay with Rejection: You Don’t Need to People-Please

    April 19, 2025 - By Susie

    Why It Hurts to Be Disliked We grow up conditioned to believe that we need to be liked by the people around us. Society tells us – sometimes gently, sometimes not – that universal approval is the goal. We’re taught to please, to perform, to soften our edges in exchange for acceptance. We are never taught how to deal with, let alone be okay with rejection. From school hallways to social media feeds, the message is clear: being liked means you’re safe, valued, and worthy. But let’s zoom out for a second. Does that really make any sense? There are…

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    A Lesson in Self-Esteem: How You Care for Yourself is Important

    April 12, 2025 - By Susie

    How you care for yourself is a reflection of how you feel about yourself, and the two go hand in hand.  Part of loving yourself and building your self-esteem is taking care of your physical self. Think of your body as a precious gift that you are responsible for taking care of. Be open to listening to your body; it will tell you what it needs every time. If you are lovingly listening, you can be there for yourself and ensure your needs are met. Prioritizing yourself is a great way to increase your self-esteem. This simple act builds self-love.…

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    Boundaries & Self-Respect - Confidence & Self-Worth - Emotional Awareness - Healing & Inner Work - Perspective and Growth

    Stop Idealizing People – Why We Put Others on a Pedestal and How to Break the Cycle

    April 8, 2025 - By Susie

    Learn why we idealize others, how childhood trauma plays a role, and how to break free for healthier, more authentic relationships.

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