People-pleasers are often described as “nice”. Beyond nice, however, people-pleasers are sensitive, emotionally attuned and often deeply empathetic. The problem occurs when empathy becomes your way of survival; when you unconsciously believe that other people’s comfort is more important than your truth – it gradually depletes your self-worth. People-pleasing is a survival strategy, and we do it out of fear – fear of disappointing others, fear of abandonment. Fear that if we don’t make other people happy; we aren’t lovable. The Unseen Burden of Pleasing If you were conditioned to view approval as the same as love, you likely learned that disappointing someone meant you would lose connection. In the…
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Emotions are an essential part of the human experience, in fact, it’s our emotions that make us human. We feel our feelings all throughout the day, but how often do we really take time to understand what we’re feeling and why? Most of us have been conditioned to categorize emotions as “good” or “bad,” but the reality is, emotions are far too complicated and nuanced to use such a binary approach. Moving beyond the “good” vs. “bad” emotional framework allows you to better identify and understand your emotions, and get to know yourself in the process. In this post, we’ll explore how to let go of the judgements you make…
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Self-love is a topic that gets a lot of attention—but what does it actually mean? How do we cultivate self-love? If we have a healthy relationship with ourselves, we may want to deepen it. If we don’t, chances are, we feel that too. The presence or absence of self-love impacts every area of life: our relationships, career success, boundaries, and emotional well-being. But how do we get to a place of authentic self-love? And what does loving yourself truly look like in a world filled with mixed messages and unrealistic expectations? In this post, we’ll explore: Self-Love Looks Different for Everyone We often hear people say: “You have to love…
