Learn why we idealize others, how childhood trauma plays a role, and how to break free for healthier, more authentic relationships.
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Insecurity ebbs and flows, just like confidence. Sometimes it seems that we diagnose someone else as being insecure, as if it’s a jab. Under the right circumstances our ego might take the wheel and call that other person insecure – as if by comparison, insecurity doesn’t apply to everyone. However, when we are the ones experiencing uncertainty, it’s easy to find reasons to feel worse and fall deeper into victim thinking. Let’s talk about where insecurities come from, and how to build real self-esteem. It’s important to remember that insecurity, like all other emotions, is fluid. Furthermore, everyone feels insecure from…
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Falling in Love With Yourself Isn’t a One-Time Thing Falling in love with yourself is not one-time event. It’s not a grand, cinematic moment where you look in the mirror and suddenly feel like you’re enough. Real self-love is based on the ongoing relationship you have with yourself. Like any relationship, the one you have with yourself also requires time, patience, and a whole lot of emotional healing and learning. It’s messy, raw, and sometimes it feels like everything is in the way of you and the love you could have for yourself. Read more for some perspective on how…
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I never allowed myself to feel anger until I was about twenty-five. Of course, I got angry, I felt full of rage at times – but I never allowed myself to be consciously aware of my anger. If I happened to get angry, I would just wait for that emotion to fade and distract myself with something else. I repressed my anger for a very long time, until I eventually realized what I was doing. I had no idea that understanding and healing anger was so important. I acted this way as a result of my conditioning; it was easier…
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Gratitude isn’t just something you practice on Thanksgiving or when something good happens. It’s more than a fleeting moment of appreciation – it’s a way of life. Gratitude shapes your life when it is the lens through which you see the world, the energy you bring to every conversation, challenge, and interaction. When you practice gratitude consistently, everything changes. How Practicing Gratitude Changes You The beauty of gratitude is that it rewires your brain, shifting you from a mindset of lack to one of abundance. Instead of waiting for things to make you happy, you realize that you already have…
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There are a lot of efforts being made on behalf of the beauty industry to be more inclusive and accepting of people’s differences. The problem is that even still, you may be bombarded with varying messages that make it hard to love and accept your body. Those messages tell you your body must to look a certain way to be worthy, to be loved, to belong. What doesn’t belong is the belief that you are somehow less because you don’t fit into an impossible mold that was never designed for you in the first place. However, you are not here…
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Travel isn’t just about seeing beautiful places or snapping photos for your Instagram. Sure, sipping espresso in Paris or chasing sunsets in Bali holds their own value, but travel is far more profound. You see how travel transforms you when you step outside of your comfort zone, get uncomfortable, and realize how much bigger, wilder, and richer life is beyond the small world you’ve built for yourself. The moment you step into a new place – where the language is different, the streets are unfamiliar, and you don’t have the comfort of routine – you meet a new version of…
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Fear is an inevitable part of life, if you know how to manage your fear and choose empowerment – your life experience may become just a little bit easier. When we think of things we are afraid of—things we avoid, moments that make us feel inferior—what really matters here is perspective. Sure, sometimes there are objective factors to consider, such as qualifications and experience. If you’ve never flown a plane before and just sat down to try—that might be a little scary and you should definitely be qualified. But for those everyday moments of fear—talking to a friend after a…
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For years, I longed for a role model who could guide me toward becoming a confident, empowered woman. I envisioned someone like Wonder Woman—strong, fearless, and wise. I dreamt of a mentor who would take me under her wing and help me embody all the qualities I admired in others. But despite meeting many inspiring women, I couldn’t find the perfect role model—until I learned an important lesson: sometimes, to find your role model – you have to look within. The Search for a Role Model I was always drawn to strong, self-assured women who walked into rooms with confidence.…
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In my journey of self-discovery, I’ve come to recognize a powerful truth: answers come when you listen to yourself. Recently, I had a revelation that was a game-changer. It wasn’t the first big insight I’ve had, but this one felt different—deeper, more freeing. Let me share how I got to this point and what it means to listen for answers and let go of the past. Repeating Patterns and Aha Moments Like many, I’ve spent countless hours replaying scenarios in my mind. Most of them were variations of a scene where I stand up for myself—strong, confident, and in control.…