• A woman stands in a field of sunflowers and laughs. She has stopped feeling bad for everything. She understands that she is doing her best and that is enough.
    Perspective

    Stop Feeling Bad For Everything: Why It Happens and How to Break the Cycle

    Introduction I was thinking recently about all the times I’ve heard someone say they wanted to do something, go somewhere, speak up – but they felt bad about actually doing any of it. Have you ever been there? Maybe you wanted to say no to an invitation to go out, but you said yes because you “felt bad”.  Maybe you wanted to ask the server about your order because you specifically requested no cilantro, and there’s definitely cilantro in this – but you don’t want to make anyone “feel bad”. I’ve even heard stories from friends about going on dates, or spending more time with someone than they actually wanted…

  • A woman sits in an open window with a balcony behind her. She is looking to her right, seemingly contemplating. How is she feeling? Perhaps she is discovering that things other people do is about them and never about her.
    Perspective and Growth

    Don’t Take it Personally

    I took myself to a solo lunch the other day. As I sat there waiting for my food, I played a little game with myself. In this game, I would observe the people around me, and whenever someone inspired me, I’d create a story for them. I’d decide where they were from, how long they’d lived in the area, what their dreams and aspirations might be, what their concerns might be, and how they were connected to the restaurant I was in. Of course, it was all made up in my head. The point of the exercise was to remind myself that other people have their own thoughts and emotions…