Sometimes it seems that we diagnose someone else as being insecure, as if it’s a jab. Under the right circumstances our ego might take the wheel and call that other person insecure – as if by comparison, self-doubt doesn’t apply to everyone. However, when we are the ones experiencing uncertainty, it’s easy to find reasons to feel worse and fall deeper into victim thinking. Let’s talk about where self-doubt come from, and how to build real self-esteem. Needing external validation is a learned thing, absorbed over years like secondhand smoke. And just like smoke, it clouds everything – how you see yourself, how you move through the world, and how you…
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Introduction: Looking Beneath the Surface I recently started a new job, and I really went into it with the idea that if I could have all of my questions and answers ready, I would be more prepared, more successful, and start doing really well right out of the gate. While I would soon realize that my expectations just needed to be managed with regard to time, I learned something here. Typically, it takes a long time for people to get started in my field, so I was actually on track as I was. As it happened, I wasn’t considering that a new hire is clearly going to be experiencing different…
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Two Different Mornings Many of us start our day in a rush. It’s easy to hit snooze, and some of us just aren’t morning people. Sometimes the morning looks like waking up in a hurry after sleeping past your alarm, rushing to take a shower, halfway doing your hair, and getting somewhere at the last minute. Can you relate? For some of us, that’s just how the day starts. But what if you were more intentional about your mornings – about how you begin your day? The chaos of starting your morning in a rush echoes into the rest of your day. Not to mention, when you’re going about your…
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The Power of Understanding Yourself Many people try to “fix” themselves before they even really take the time to get to know themselves. How can you fix something you don’t fully understand?It’s common to: …without first asking ourselves: When you don’t understand the underlying problem, you tend to treat only symptoms. The result is often a series of chasing, reaching, and repeating affirmations – while subconsciously fearing that they might actually come to fruition. At any point in your journey, it’s important to be aware of how you’re feeling, your boundaries, and your values. If you don’t already know what your boundaries are or how you feel about a particular…
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Abuse is not something that’s easy to write about, I want to be sure I am compassionate to those who have and are experiencing abuse. Abuse comes in a lot of different forms, happens to different degrees and can be experienced by anyone. As such, this particular perspective might only apply to a few folks specifically, and that’s okay – please use this information at your discretion. Being a survivor of domestic abuse growing up, this insight comes from my own experience both at home and in other environments. My hope is that you might find the following concepts to be helpful and empowering. Consider the signs listed below and…
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When we were little, we were taught to say “sorry” when we did something wrong. For some of us, somewhere along the way, we picked up the habit of apologizing constantly – just moving through life. People go to therapy because they need to talk about their desire for an apology. I know in the past, I’ve held the belief that an apology needed to happen before I could move on, and I’m not alone. Some folks wait years – sometimes their whole lives – for an apology. They stop speaking to loved ones, they hold grudges. They rearrange entire parts of their lives because they feel an apology is…
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On our journey to find our most authentic selves, we will likely come across others who may have varying ways of responding to us. As you grow, and learn and move closer to who you really are, there are some people in your life who may show resistance to those changes. In this post, we discuss how to tell if someone is jealous of you and six ways to identify envy in others. As you increase your respect for yourself, you may allow less disrespect from others. Comments, looks, reactions that you once allowed or even accepted, may no longer be able to exist around you. As you continue to…
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Runaway thoughts often lead to overwhelming emotions. For many of us, managing and understanding your emotions can feel like an uphill battle – especially when some emotions seem to linger longer than welcome. But here’s the truth: your emotions are not your enemy. They’re messengers. In this post, we’ll walk through the first step to understanding your emotions, how to acknowledge them without judgment, and how that awareness can transform your emotional well-being. Why Understanding Your Emotions Is So Important Emotions are powerful. They’re complex. And above all, they’re trying to tell you something important. Whether you’re at work, trying to sleep, exercising, or making dinner – your emotions show…
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Self-love is a topic that gets a lot of attention – but what does it actually mean? How do we cultivate self-love? If we have a healthy relationship with ourselves, we may want to deepen it. If we don’t, chances are, we feel that too. The presence or absence of self-love impacts every area of life: our relationships, career success, boundaries, and emotional well-being. But how do we get to a place of authentic self-love? And what does loving yourself truly look like in a world filled with mixed messages and unrealistic expectations? In this post, we’ll explore: Self-Love Looks Different for Everyone We often hear people say: “You have…
